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Advice for Dating Someone with Asperger’s

  1. I listen to his concerns, for what clothing issues he might have. Note: When you go clothes shopping, you let him pick out comfortable articles of pants and shirts.
  1. Dear Self: You can tell him when you’re tired of his rants (for example) about the gaming company AE. It’s okay. Don’t feel bad about needing to change the subject.
  2. He is smart, his experiences are valid, and he is loved by his family, friends, and (most importantly) by me.
  3. Your relationship may not move along as quickly as some, but he doesn’t stray. He loves you more deeply than you can imagine, deeper than any pool of water, stronger than any yarn I’ve knitted.
  4. Believe that he can do things, because he believes in you.
  5. Rory is special, because I’m special, too. I understand what it’s like to struggle with making friends, that being social can tire us both out.
  6. I have PDDNOS, which means that I’m on the autism spectrum, but don’t fit under the umbrella like someone with Asperger’s. I have autistic tendencies, I say, because it’s easier to explain. I’m passionate about Blue October, the novel A Little Life, LGBTQ+ rights and issues, and learning new knitting patterns. I can talk your ear off about any of my favorite subjects. Rory knows this, and he can do the same for video games, science, history, and psychology tidbits . (He’s gotten better about listening to the flow of our conversations since I first started dating him.)
  7. Love on the autism spectrum is magical, because you’re both unique. We’re both living unicorns, wild and free in the shimmering forest. We’re eating from the same rainbow cup of ice cream. We’re animated about our different passions: writing, reading, and gaming. You like the prettiness of video games, and I love the pretty knitting patterns I discover on YouTube. We both light up when we’re together, a halo of light ringing our bodies.

M.B.B.
6/29/2020

Notes: Every person with autism is different. Every experience with autism is different. Some are high-functioning, while some people just need more love and care navigating our crazy world. This is my personal experience with dating someone who has Asperger’s, a form of autism. I too am on the autism spectrum. Both Rory’s and my experiences are unique. We have mutual friends who are also on the autism spectrum. We get along really well! It’s important to spread awareness (even in today’s world) about autism. For example, autism is not caused by vaccines. This is a myth spread through fear tactics and misunderstanding of vaccines and what science can do for us as human beings. I’m on the autism spectrum because of my prematurity at birth. On the other hand, my boyfriend Rory wasn’t born premature and happens to also be on the autism spectrum. He is high-functioning. Thank you for taking the time to listen and to read my poem.

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six years

six years ago,
I started blogging.

six years ago,
I started putting my thoughts to my keyboard,
connecting the words in my brain
to the words on the electronic screen.

six years ago,
I was still in college,
in my final year at Morris, MN.

six years ago,
I created On the Prairie
my very first blog ever.

six years later,
I’m writing at a break-your-neck speed,
fingers dashing toward the black-and-white ribboned finish line,
the muscles in my hands dancing to a drummer’s steady rat-a-tat-tat beat.

six years later,
I’m reading more,
I’m writing more,
I’m blogging almost every day.

six years later,
I’m still a writer.

M.B.B.
6/12/2020

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morning pages

I’m up early & writing,
laying down words
like laying fresh bricks:
one word in front of the other, rapid-firing on my keyboard

I’m up early & writing,
creating with the right side of my brain,
writing with my left hand
splaying out the pages on my desk,
getting ink smudges on my wrist

I’m writing to give my characters life,
to solidify their world swirling around in my mind:
a paper apple becomes a juicy, fresh-off-the-tree-limb Granny Smith

I’m up early & writing,
because if I get the words down—
flowing from my head to my wrist,
a conduit like electricity through my synapses—
I will feel fully alive

M.B.B.
6/11/2020

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Straight-Laced

Your textile mill
& your straight-laced columns of mathematics
kept me in line—
but when I sent kiss-o-grams
to the cute boy in cubicle three,
you crippled me with laughter,
a bruised knee,
& sideways shoves into the lockers.

When I held his hand for the first time,
—fly-me-to-Jupiter, over-the-moon happy—
you said I was gross
& plenty of other terrible things, too.

I still work at the mill,
& keep my records straight,
tight as a wound ball of yarn,
tidy as my pencils, neatly ordered in lines—
but he’s the only one I tango with at night.

M.B.B.
2/17/15
(edited 6/4/20)

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goldfinch

I hop from branch to branch,
peeping & tweeting,
as I collect small sticks for my nest

I’m a goldfinch,
yellow & black,
tiny feet gripping the branches as I flit to & fro,
munching on sunflower, alder, & birch seeds

M.B.B.
2/20/14
(fixed 1/29/16)
(edited 5/28/2020)

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The Science Guy

Bill Nye was amazing. His lecture was funny, poignant, hopeful, personal, and highly informative. The gym in the RFC (our workout center at Morris) was packed with students of all ages. (A mom with her husband and their elementary school aged daughter and son sat in front of me. The girl thought that Bill Nye looked like he was “seventy.” A Google search revealed that he’s actually fifty-eight.)

There was a beautiful roar when he finally took the stage. Phones lit up the dramatic dimming of the lights. I sat in the bleachers next to Rory & Leon with blue hair. We were three of 1,700 people.

Bill Nye said that he doesn’t want to be around scientists who don’t appreciate poetry, or poets who don’t appreciate science. There were made up words for the different shades of shadows, some starting with X. His dad helped create the sundial while in a Japanese POW camp, with a shovel rammed into the stiff earth. Venus is so hot that the rain there never reaches the surface: it gets sucked back up in the thunderheads overhead. If there is life on Europa, we’ll know by flying through the geysers and counting the enumerable bugs on the windshield.

We can, dare I say it, help change the world! Laser bees are going to chop up oncoming asteroids.

And people say that science is boring.

M.B.B.
10/23/14
edited 5/26/2020

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resting place

In my life, I’m busy:
Homework keeps me on my toes,
friends invite me to socialize & social events,
& the real world awaits.

But the mountains are calling, John Muir says,
& I must go,
the Misty Mountains are calling,
& dwarves are in my Hobbit hole.

The mountains, Misty or not, stand stock still,
as unshakeable as soldiers.
The streams gurgle,
the breeze whispers,
& the snow crunches like carrots underfoot.

There are so many things I must do:
I must prepare for my driver’s test,
& write a 400-word essay by tomorrow.
Showering isn’t a luxury: it will only take ten minutes.
My best friend is leaving for Washington, D.C.

The Sun does not hurry,
for it’s hot as hell below,
nor does it rise late upon Mount Sopris,
nor does the grass wither.
Remember, grass doesn’t grow like green piece of paper on trees.
Remember, life’s like a jump rope.

M.B.B.
2/12/15
edited 5/24/2020

Note: italicized pieces are from the works of Blue October, Les Miserables (the play), & a quote from John Muir is also included.

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The Journey

There’s a tall glass of water on the counter,
& a tiny door in front of you.

It’s like Alice’s passage into Wonderland,
an oaken door to adventure,
to green parks & freshly painted houses all in rows

You’re about to embrace an adventure,
a road where no one has traveled,
where your bare feet will be the first prints in the dirt.

But first you must decide:

Is the glass half empty or half full?

Your answer will determine
how green the grass looks,
how bright the colors of the red, gold, & orange leaves will look,
how the children will laugh & shriek with delight, chasing blue rubber balls
& how clean the parks will be
once you open the neatly oiled wooden door,
stepping inside.

M.B.B.
5/5/15
edited 5/24/2020

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an ocean

Your blue-green waves
tug me from the soft sand & beckon me into your lapping waters,
where I splash you
with my goose-pimpled skin,
warmed by the sudden blaze of Volcanus’ heat from your undertow.

M.B.B.
5/28/15
edited 5/23/2020

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Dear Jude

I miss your cleaning. I miss hearing you trot out arpeggios in the middle of the night on the piano, when you can’t seem to grasp reality. I miss your cooking. I miss the sound of your voice, even when you’re angry. I miss the looks you shared with Willem; I miss you looking at the rising sun at the office. I miss your smile, hidden behind your hand. I love the sound of you singing in German. You’re one of the smartest men I know. May I give you a hug? Would you want to go for tea sometime? I miss the sparkle in your green eyes. I love how ruthless you are in court, how you glue everyone’s eyes on you. Don’t let the old bastards get you down. I love the way your hands move across the keys of a piano, how they finely chop onions or carrots. You’re the most sensitive person I know. Don’t worry, JB was right: It will get better.

Thank you for your life.

I miss you so much.

Love,

M

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Threads

So, this is what it’s like to truly miss you:
wanting nothing more than to wrap you in my arms
like I would wrap a present with a nice, tight red bow.

Your smooth, supple legs twining around mine,
our clothes lost from top to bottom—
the threads unraveling with each kiss
& each brush of each touch
renewing my faith in you.

You’re better than any demi-god,
because you’re a fully-fledged human:
flawed like my first clayey spin at the potter’s wheel,
fabled like the Geat Beowulf,
witty as Chaucer in his pilgrimage to Canterbury,
sharp in a black vest and red bowtie,
smart like Tesla,
strong as a beaker,
& sexy as ‘80s synth.

I can’t believe you’re actually mine:
clear, mountain stream blue eyes,
full rose-pink lips,
long, nimble fingers
that unbutton jeans as easily as laying the strokes of lines of code,
powerful thighs which wrap around my torso,
your beautiful cock to greet me
in the morning,
& wet my appetite
well after midnight,
& your warm, sweaty body to hold in my shining arms
once we’ve finished mussing the bedsheets.

M.B.B.
8/3/16
(edited 5/21/2020)

Note: This can be seen as a non-personal poem, for it is a fantasy in the speaker’s mind. The image used is from shutterstock.com

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It’s the little things

It’s the little things that set you apart from others:
your shining blue eyes,
the way you brush your teeth,
the way you comb your hair,
and the way in which you walk with your calve muscles
it’s the steady thumping of your fingers on your keyboard,
your sharp laughter at something funny,
and your long hugs
which warm me like a blanket

M.B.B.
1/16/16
edited 5/20/2020

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How to Love Someone Two Hours Away: a Time Capsule

  1. It’s harder than concrete,
    & sparser than the desert flowers
  2. Meeting up, everything’s rushed:
    time floats like the loon they say;
    driving the kids around in the golf cart,
    pushing little Ezra to “go higher!” on the swing set,
    watching The Lego Movie on your grandma’s bed
  3. Kissing you is sweeter
    than salt water taffy;
    our tongues crackling electricity in our mouths,
    snapping like Pop Rocks
  4. I miss squeezing our bodies
    closetogether in a fierce hug;
    I miss riffling through your shoulder-length brown hair;
    I ache for the sound of your voice
    in my sadness,
    in my inability to wrench myself from the suction of bedsheets
  5. Now, during Covid-19:
    Your laughter over funny YouTube videos
    brings a trembling smile to my lips,
    I ask how you’re doing
    & feel gushing spring water relief when you say, “Okay.”
  6. At night,
    I hope I dream up adventures for us:
    picnics, snuggling on your sectional couch,
    eating burgers & shakes at Freddy’s,
    holding hands as we walk down the bike path,
    the trees budding pink and green shoots anew

M.B.B.
7/8/16
(edited 3/17/20)
(edited again 5/16/20)

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Canvas

Your body is an inspiration
from which I can paint,
splattering bits of the colors you’re wearing onto my canvas

I rub color-pieces of clothes onto my canvas:
the red of your button-down shirt,
my faded blue jeans,
& your Game of Thrones socks.

I smear all of these
into the thick white canvas spread before me
& leave impressions of them in your bright-blue veins
when we kiss

I imitate Pollock,
dribbling our colors together
from huge tubes of paint
to form winding whorls

M.B.B.
5/8/2020

Note: the speaker is inspired by the colors of clothes that she and her boyfriend are wearing to influence her art.

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I want you back in my bed

I want you back in my bed,
slithering over the covers of my duvet,
slinking closer to kiss and caress me

I want you back in my bed,
writhing and moaning underneath me,
a gasping hot mess,
a volcano about to blow

I want you back in my bed,
your arms twined around me,
your head resting on my chest

I miss being in the same bed,
the sheets mussed,
our closeness almost uncomfortable
like a stitch in my side

I want to be back in the same house as you,
laughing, watching anime, and eating popcorn
spooning on the large sectional

M.B.B.
5/7/2020